Frankly I don’t know how this topic came up to me. Maybe its my present college scenario where people as blogged before are busy.

Well it was a pretty lazy today ( had to be Dassera holiday and I had bunked Talele’s Lecture). I was just trying to jot down differences between my school friends and college friends ( with respect to how much I can trust, usual topics of conversation , usual interests, kind of hangouts i prefer ) then I realized a significant difference in our topics of conversation

Normally when I hang out with my school friend’s the usual topics that we talk about are News, Cars, Sports & how well our other friends are doing in their life. I still remember when I was in school we use to judge others based on kind of friends he had or how well he did in exams, was he padhaku or khelu. Never did I judge a person based on his character ( Actually I feel we were kinda innocent at that time , and never even thought about it )

Entry Engineering College and usual topic where it usually ends atleast in my case is “Yes he is trust-worthy” or ” I don’t like this guys attitude”. ( in short character judging ) Yes it even surprised me today but its true I think I have been judging people more after I came into engineering.So what’s wrong with it you may ask?. Well its ok as long as you are talking good about a person. But that is not the case all the time.

Have often come across comments like “well that’s him , it doesn’t surprise me” , “She is a slut” , ” She is a bitch” , ” He has attitude” , “He shows some kinda ignorance” from my friends in class. Well even my friends know some comments are baseless, so why make it. Also many time we make up judgements because we think he/she is like that. According to me making judgements without knowing other person properly is bad.

No doubt some judgements may be right but at this point of time I would like to recall this cool story Cracked Pot which signifies not all people are perfect but its upto us to make best use of other’s good or bad quality. As someone has rightly quoted

“Be careful,”. “You are stepping into a minefield when you begin to judge others!” Because the dangers are hidden, minefields are especially deadly, and judging beyond our area of authority is just as dangerous. If we ignore the warning and continue pressing forward, judging beyond our authority will blow up in our faces, ripping us to shreds!

Idea behind the blog is not to stop judging other or idea of judging other’s based on character is bad ( in fact I feel its better than judging based on how well he has done with his life ) but just be careful while judging other’s cause it may happen you will receive the same kind of judgment that you make of others.

In end I would add one more quote

Our judgment may be distorted because we may have a flaw of far greater magnitude in us than the flaw we observe so critically in others. The unspoken intimation is that because the flaw is ours, and we love ourselves, we are willing to be lenient in our self-judgment. By focusing our criticism on another, it enables us to avoid scrutinizing ourselves carefully and critically. Some enjoy correcting others because it makes them feel virtuous, compensating for failures in themselves that they have no desire to face. But the judgment we make about others is in reality the judgment we will receive from others”.